Hello guys, ill try an outline my situation as briefly as possible.

i've been in this relationship for about a year now with 4 months of her chasing me. i'm 29 and shes 26. fairly good girl not much for drama, does not seek male attention. ive stayed about 90% alpha our whole relationship. ive addpoted more of my game from Shark and roissy.

We have had our ups and downs mostly really good times, with lots of sex, fun, and just enjoying each others company. however, things have been on the decline sense about OCT. her contacting me less frequently, sex has slowed down. all the cute things she does for me stopped. she making more plans with her friends then me. and shes starting drama over little things.

Most recently she got butt hurt over something really stupid and started pouting, and asked me if i was going to apologize, and i said no. and she left the room to pout downstairs. i got up and make a cup of coffee and sat down next to her and shes still giving me shit. then she leaves the room again. and i basicly left.

I'm soft nexting her which i have done a few times before, once it worked. and another time it didn't. its been 3 days with not a peep from her. other than being passive aggressive on facebook posting things to make her firends feel sorry for her kinda of high school BS.

So my question is why isn't she chasing me anymore?

ps: i know most of you are thinking she might have someone else that caught her eye.. but that's not the case. any advice would be greatly appreciated and if i left something out please ask and ill fill in the blanks thank you -Betablaster

OK,first off,dont take any of the things I'm gonna say here as an insult , they are not that , I'm just trying to help you see some things that I get the feeling you're not seeing.


You know , there's a very thin line between being alpha and being emotionally unavailable.

Most guys live under the impression that being alpha means ,among other stuff :

"I will never apologize no matter if I fucked up or not"
"I will never show any form of emotion towards any girl and then I will end up not knowing why she slowly backs away"
"I will show no weakness ,ever".
Weakness doesnt mean admiting you are / did wrong. It means not being able to do so !


Being alpha means being superior to others. Being dominant.

Being a little bitch and not knowing when to say "I'm sorry" or not knowing how to express your feelings (or not letting yourself HAVE feelings) is mainly lack of character. You can not be alpha(true alpha) without having character.

Anyway , I would say that 8/10 times when girls get buthurt over stupid things and ask you to apologize , they do it cuz they feel you're not giving them enough emotionally-wise - and yes , most times they're right -. The fact that they want you to apologize for something that looks stupid actually translates to: "I want to know if you care enough for me to try and make me feel better".
Do you do cute things for her ?
Fact is , when people give they also want to recieve. Remember to always give back. Not doing so won't make you alpha , it will make you stupid.

Any of the things I said might be a reason as to why she stopped chasing you. Everyone stops , at some point , if the start feeling like nothing good will come out of that chase.

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you sound a lot like me and i was in your same situation, but RC was dead on. you have to give to give to receive and if you receive you have to give. if you say shes a good girl that doesn't seek validation and never gave a reason to doubt your relationship .i would talk to her and apologize not say ''im sorry'' and if she doesnt want to hear it then just tell her that you respect her decision and you wish her the best LIKE AN ALPHA...LATEZ

I think this may come down to the value you have. Maybe you've changed a few things without realising or are just not showing that you have much value?

Think of what your doing right now. Have you got goals or targets to achieve? Do you have something you're really committed too? Do you get asked to go out a lot with you're friends? If she doesn't see in this sense that she can possibly gain value from being with you, she could potentially lose interest.
When you soft next, give her a reason to come back. Are you speaking to other HB's? Are you working hard on what you want? She won't fall for a soft next that easily if you dont give her reason to.

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I do know 1 thing though, bitches they come they go

Think about this question, are you still the same person you were when she fell in love with you right now?

this is a very important question.

I have fallen into this trap in past relationships where I completely change once I get too comfortable with the girl.
Were you going to the gym at the start of the relationship? did you have hobbies? did you do things that were interesting and fun? did you have an attractive lifestyle when you met her?

Are you still doing those things?

took her 8 days to contact me. we talked about it. and we are going to continue. on working things out. i whent over to her place and she had taken all our pictures off the wall. kinda made me sad. but i didn't even say anything about it. just acted like i didn't notice. was that the right move?

damn dude thats rough. I'm going through the same thing right now and i have no idea how to get back on the right track again. It sucks.

you've been in a relationship with her for a year and you just froze her out for 8 days? she probably thinks you're a dick and that you don't care. you can't freeze out a girlfriend like that. at least I would never.

No wonder she took the pics off the wall after an 8 day freeze out. She must've thought that you don't give a single fuck about her.

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I have to say RC is really dead on in this situation.
You need to show to her that you still care about her.
Since you noticed that she took down your photos and didn't say anything do you know what that meant to her? That you don't care that she took them down.
Women tend to (over)analyze everything, I'm still a starter in pua but this was one of my first realizations.
Not saying anything about it SURELY hurt her. My take is that if you wanna stay with her say something like this "I'll do what it takes to get those pictures back on that wall" to show to her that you noticed but you also have to act on your word, be congruent. Maybe try to take her to places where you went on your first dates or somehow relive the experience of your first outings.

Get her a new frame with a really good picture of you two. Tell her ''I figured the ones you had were a bit boring..'' Then kiss her on the forehead and apologize for being a dick.