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Author:  TonyRichards [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 6:34 am ]
Post subject:  It was going well til I gave her a little kiss..
So I met this cute girl at the apple store. I commented on her clothing and she was very cooperative and smiling. Got her to laugh alot, then I found out she went to the same college as me (I'm freshmen, she's a sophomore). She even suggested we should hangout! I told her she was really cute and asked to get coffee sometime and she happily agreed. She gave me her number, I pressed SEND, told her that was my number poppin up on her phone. I said i had to leave and opened my arms for a hug. While I was hugging her, I kissed the side of her face and when I let go hugging she was smiling but i couldn't tell if she was shy or just freaked out. I texted her an hour or two later about her Macbook situation. She never responded. SO....did I fuck up by kissing her? What should I text her if she still doesn't respond by tmrw? :?:
Author:  Acclaim [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 8:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: It was going well til I gave her a little kiss..
Forget about it and move on. What you should've done/should do for next time is not go so fast with the kino and wait maybe a day to text or at least 8 hours maybe
Author:  Ruggedized [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 9:10 am ]
Post subject:  Re: It was going well til I gave her a little kiss..
I agree. Day game is a much slower process, especially when it comes to kino. Girls will happily make out with a guy in a night club, but are much less enthusiastic about it in a coffee shop. Don't get me wrong, kinoing is great, but you gotta keep it in perspective and use the right amount depending on where and when you are with her.
On a positive note, you're doing great in the anxiety department. It's awesome that you went for it. Don't beat yourself up over this one. Just learn from it. Next time, get the number, get a hug, and invite her out for a drink. The bar or house party is your money maker when it comes to escalating fast!
Author:  puaninja [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 12:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: It was going well til I gave her a little kiss..
Hey, hats off to you for n-closing and trying to k-close. Unfortunately you didn't do it right and you'll have to forget about this one and move on. But we can at least make this a learning experience for you.

The thing is, I've never heard of a kiss close on the cheek. Girls have kissed the side of my face, but I don't kiss the side of theirs. I've never heard of any pickup instructor telling guys to do that. So clearly you went out on your own here and tried to half-ass the k-close and it obviously didn't work out. Remember, going in for the kiss is all about confidence and sensuality. A cheek peck is a beta/AFC way of going about kissing a girl without taking any risks. Alphas don't cheek peck. They shove their tongue down the girls throat.

It's amazing how cause and effect can be so clearly identified in pick up. You don't kiss her right, she doesn't call back. If you had forgone the kiss, or waited for ioi's and built more rapport first, then kissed her, I'm sure she would've responded to your text.
Author:  anonymous man [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 1:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: It was going well til I gave her a little kiss..
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So I met this cute girl at the apple store. I commented on her clothing and she was very cooperative and smiling. Got her to laugh alot, then I found out she went to the same college as me (I'm freshmen, she's a sophomore). She even suggested we should hangout! I told her she was really cute and asked to get coffee sometime and she happily agreed. She gave me her number, I pressed SEND, told her that was my number poppin up on her phone. I said i had to leave and opened my arms for a hug. While I was hugging her, I kissed the side of her face and when I let go hugging she was smiling but i couldn't tell if she was shy or just freaked out. I texted her an hour or two later about her Macbook situation. She never responded. SO....did I fuck up by kissing her? What should I text her if she still doesn't respond by tmrw? :?:
The guy that told you to move on is retarded as f*ck...

Just wait and DO NOT TEXT HER! Call her in 1-2 days if she wants to go take a cofee. Girls LOVE guys being spontaneous. Texting is for bads...

Call her on the phone, she'll feel your voice! She'll like that you call her instead of texting her. It's an other way around to give her attention without even complimenting her :p
Author:  Acclaim [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 4:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: It was going well til I gave her a little kiss..
Let's look at like this. If YOU FEEL that you messed up and she's not interested then that's the self fulfilling prophecy that will most likely occur. Go and call her the next day, if no response either wait two days and call then wait 3 days and see if you get a response. If nothing happens after a few calls just move on.

The main point is to let go of any need for this girl. There are heaps of women out there so instead of getting attached to one make sure you can feel like you have even the slightest of abundance so girls not replying/being flaky won't matter.

But from my honest experience if she wasn't too busy or had another reason she couldn't respond you probably pushed her boundaries. It's always 60% her/40% you so don't you ever feel so bad about it.
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